Dating really tall men
“Women seem to be very keen on height and good grammar,” mused by boyfriend.
“I saw a lot of profiles that said ‘Don’t bother if you don’t know the difference between ‘to’ and ‘too’ - and definitely not if you’re shorter than me.” Apparently, height is one of the most commonly lied about attributes on dating sites, and I know plenty of women, myself included, who have complained when a date turned out to be six inches shorter than advertised.
I said yes and mentioned that not many men ask me to dance, and he said it’s because men must find my height imposing. ” Other times, men aren’t so straightforward and their preferences come across in the form of a subtler snub.
“When I’m out at a bar, I’m the one who talks to all the guys and gets the conversation going,” says Richelle, 27, from Boston who’s 6’.
I’ve lost count of the number of female friends who have stroppily flung their phones down on pub tables, wailing “I hate online dating, I hate it! ” when, after a little probing, it becomes clear that the "someone" they’re searching for needs to be 5”10, minimum.
Theme parks have less stringent height requirements than some of the single women I know. When I went on my very first date with the man who is now my boyfriend, I remember being a little taken aback by the fact that, in my modest two and a half inch heels, I could see clearly over the top of his head.
After all, everyone is the same height when they’re on a bar stool, and I’d not met many other men, tall or short, in whom I found a mutual unfettered enthusiasm for The Simpsons, crunchy peanut butter and the Ludacris song Area Codes.
Very occasionally, in my online dating days, I’d encounter men who would be ultra specific about a preferred hair colour, body shape or breast type, and be outraged.
It’s a damaging double standard, and one that women need to address if they’re looking for love, otherwise they might find themselves staying single for a long time.
It’s no wonder that some shorter men might seem defensive about their size when the world is so keen to tell them it wishes they were a little bit taller.
We’d met on Twitter, so all I’d had to go by was a 5mm square picture of what I have come to know as his “nonplussed face”.
There was no opportunity to specify a preferred size, as you might do on or My Single Friend or John Lewis, when you’re ordering duvets.