Dating moms with kids
I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.
It was lovely being out sans Jack, having a cold beer at the bar, surrounded by other adults enjoying drinks, conversation, and music. I videotaped their answers, transcribed what they said, and here’s what I got: “My mom was a single mom most of my childhood, so I have tons of respect for single mothers.
Sometimes it seems I’m swimming in a very shallow dating pool, but I haven’t given up and taken in fifty cats. So here’s the down-low on dating sites I’ve tried as a SWM (single working mother). And remember: You can do it at home, at night after the kids go to bed, in your pajamas if you want. You set it up through your Facebook account and set your preferences within minutes.
I wouldn’t be surprised if some were never single parents and simply thought a single mom might be “easy prey.” As for the 55 year old, his children are most likely long gone from his home.
Phone apps are quick to install and use but often come with glitches. Additionally, because men tend to simply look at the photos without reading the profile blurb, some were caught off-guard and turned off when they discovered I was a mom. Additional apps to try: • Hinge • JSwipe (the newest Jewish dating app) Match Pros: Match is obviously well-known, so chances are there will be a fair selection of guys (though I can’t promise they’ll be great).
Match lets you narrow your search terms, including whether your date has kids and his income range, which helps you filter.
(Caveat: Don’t use photos of you with your kids or of them alone, for their safety.
You never know.) Searching for matches is super simple.